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STOP
DATING VIOLENCE AMONG ADOLESCENTS WORKSHOP FOR SCHOOL STAFF Coordination
à la condition féminine This document is based on the Session de sensibilisation et d'information sur la violence dans les relations amoureuses des jeunes s'adressant au personnel scolaire developed by Francine Lavoie and Marjolaine Roy at Université Laval's École de psychologie. We would like to thank them for their contribution. All of the exercises and some of the text in this document are taken from STOP! Dating Violence among Adolescents-Classroom Activities, by Francine Lavoie, Annie Gosselin, Line Robitaille and Lucie Vézina. Design
and Development Graphies Translation Gouvernement
du Quebec INTRODUCTION Aggressive
behavior among adolescents is so common that we have come to tolerate violent
words and actions without being aware of it. The purpose of this workshop is to
make school. staff more aware of the need to intervene in preventing dating
violence among adolescents. Violence
in intimate relationships is not physical at first. Before a couple gets to that
point, there are other, more subtle forms of abuse that are every bit as
destructive. Such forms of abuse slowly eat away at the victim, who begins to
accept the situation as "almost normal," and there lies the root of
the problem. There
have been a number of studies conducted on violence against women. Research done
by universities, the Bureau de la statistique du Quebec and Statistics Canada
has all arrived at the same conclusion: one woman in eight is a victim of
conjugal violence. There is a tendency to underestimate the
seriousness of violence among adolescents. Yet, the number of cases of dating
violence among adolescents is estimated at 20 percent' and 13 percent of
Secondary IV boys admit to having used sexual violence at least once.(
2 ). Behaviors
acquired during adolescence usually continue into adulthood. There is a tendency also to underestimate the
importance and influence of intimate relationships among adolescents. For
adolescents, having a girlfriend or boyfriend is a means of attaining social
recognition; certain abusive behaviors are sometimes accepted in order to
maintain this recognition. In order to be able to intervene in situations
related to violence in dating relationships, it is essential both to accept that
this violence exists and to question one's own ideas. Participants in this
workshop may be confronted with prejudices or myths so long‑standing that
they are deeply rooted.
'Shirley
Litch Mercer, «Not a Pretty Picture: An Exploratory Study of Violence Against
Women in High School Dating Relationships, * Resources for Feminist Research/Documentation sur la recherche
féministe, 17, 2 (1988): 15‑23.
2 Marie‑Hélène Gagné, *La violence dans les
relations amoureuses des adolescents et des adolescentes une étude
quantitative," unpublished dissertation (École de psychologie, Université
Laval, 1993), vol. 2, p. 28. They
may, therefore, react with surprise or disagree with certain facts presented.
Some reactions may set in motion a process of questioning that will continue
after the workshop. The implementation of the STOP! program in schools may
encourage students to confide in resource persons and to request their help. It
is essential that the resource persons know where they stand psychologically
with regard to the problem. They will have to determine whether they feel able
to implement the STOP! program and to provide the adolescents who come to sec
them with support. The workshop is intended to help resource persons in this
role. A BRIEF HISTORY Today,
one out of every eight women is abused by her partner. Conjugal violence has led
women to join together to assert their right to women's shelters. In Quebec,
there are only 82 shelters for women victims of abuse and 24 therapy groups for
violent men, yet the demand is much greater. Women's shelters cannot accommodate
the population of abused women. In 1989‑90, the shelters took in 9 802
women and 6 053 children. Conjugal violence is equally present in every social
class and in all age groups. Only six percent of abused women make use of
women's shelters. Statistics show that one of every five women in hospital
emergency wards are there because of a violent episode at home. Between
1987 and 1991, 88 Quebec women were killed by their partners or
ex‑partners and 151 women were victims of attempted murder. In 1991, 10
226 cases of conjugal violence were reported to the police. Generally,
aggressors are fined and ordered to "keep the peace" and, sometimes,
to undergo therapy for violent men. Only a very few are sent to prison. What
does this have to do with adolescents in Secondary III and IV? Women
do not become abused and men do not become violent overnight. Abusive
relationships are the result of a long‑standing pattern of neglected
problem behaviors. That is why the STOP! program was developed. Violence in
intimate relationships is as common among adolescents as it is among adults. There is no such thing as a typical victim of
dating violence. The submissive behaviors and weakness associated with victims
of dating violence are the result of abuse rather than personality traits. It is a commonly held belief in our society
that women in violent relationships provoke their partners to the point of
abuse. Some people even think that abused women and girls are happy
with their situation, since they remain in it. This completely disregards the
social, intimate and family contexts, and the fear and stress that abuse causes.
Some abused adult women are able to, break the cycle of violence only after
approximately 35 violent episodes. Abused
girls come to feel guilty and responsible for the abuse they believe they have
provoked; that is why so few girls and women cry out against it. The popular
belief that leaving an abusive partner will put an end to, the abuse is also
false. If the partner does not accept her leaving, the abuse and harassment may
escalate. Also,
contrary to popular belief, alcohol and drug use is not a cause of violence;
rather, it is an external factor. Violent partners will, however, use this
excuse and others to play down the seriousness of their actions. THE
CONCEPT OF VIOLENCE AS DEFINED IN THE STOP! PROGRAM The
program deals only with violence experienced by adolescents in their dating
relationships with other adolescents. Although violence can and does exist in
homosexual relationships, because of the limited amount of time available for
the program the focus is on violence within heterosexual couples. The examples,
therefore, do not reflect other types of relationships. It
cannot be denied that many forms of violence exist in relationships between
adolescents of all ages. For this reason, preventive measures should be adopted
as soon as adolescents begin dating. The
STOP! program defines violence as any behavior that hinders the personal
development of another individual, compromising his or her physical,
psychological or sexual well‑being. Thus 1. According to the STOP! program, violence is an unacceptable behavior. The main cause of violence is social
inequality between the sexes. Abusers express this inequality by controlling
their partners and considering only their own ends, to the detriment of the
other person. Some even go so far as to show contempt for their partners.
Emphasis must be placed on the role that learning (e.g. a history of family
abuse) and reinforcement (peer pressure) play in this violent behaviour. CAUSES
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