EuroPROFEM - The European Men Profeminist Network http://www.europrofem.org
by Michael Flood
Men who question masculinity are often called "poofters". Whats the connection between homophobia and masculinity, and where do gay men fit in to the mens movement? Michael Flood has some answers.
HOW often have you heard "What are you, a poofter?" How often have the names "faggot", "poofter" and "queer" been hurled at you as terms of abuse?
Growing up, men are faced with the continual threat of being seen as gay and the continuous challenge of proving that they are not gay. In short, boys and men are kept in line by homophobia. Step outside the boundaries of masculine behaviour and youre immediately faced with verbal and physical attack.
Masculinity is strongly molded by homophobia, the widespread fear of and contempt for homosexuals. Homophobia leads men to limit their loving and close friendships with other men. The fear of being identified as a "poofter" leads men to behave in hypermasculine and aggressive ways and to close up emotionally.
"Real" men are heterosexual men. The dominant model of masculinity is of a heterosexual masculinity.
Gay issues are therefore relevant for all men. Fear and hostility towards gays and lesbians is a key part of what it means to be masculine. If we want to understand how boys and men are kept in the masculine role, how men become isolated and emotionally shut down, then we have to look at homophobia. If we want to understand the diverse realities of mens lives and the power relations between men, then we have to look at homophobia.
Gay and masculine?
GAY men have a different experience of masculinity to heterosexual men. While gay men get some of the privileges of being male, they also suffer oppression and discrimination because of their sexual identity. Ours is a society in which heterosexuality is the institutionalised norm, enforced by families, schools, government policies and the media. As Gary Kinsman writes in Beyond patriarchy, "while we [gay men] share with straight men the economic benefits of being men in a patriarchal society, we do not participate as regularly in the everyday interpersonal subordination of women in the realms of sexuality and violence."
The power relations between men and women are often the focus for feminist and pro-feminist thinking, but what about the power relations between men? Gay men suffer oppression at the hands of heterosexual men similar to those inflicted on women; they are bashed and killed by heterosexual male gangs and mocked for their "effeminacy". More generally, heterosexual men receive social status and approval as heterosexual men, while gay men do not (at least in the straight world).
Contemporary gay and lesbian politics began in about 1970 in the United States, Canada, Britain and Australia. The most important precondition for their emergence was the expansion of gay and lesbian networks and sub-culturesthe development of communities, beginning after World War II. The short-term context also included the "sexual revolution", the counter-culture, liberal sexology, intensified policing of sexual behaviour, and the existence of other social movements. Thus, in 1970 there was an explosion of lesbian and gay political activity in several Western capitalist countries, which is now well documented.
What is gay and lesbian politics about? Gay liberation groups aim to end the whole system of sexual categorisation, the rigid division into homosexual and heterosexual. They wish to create sexual diversity and plurality. Secondly, lesbian and gay groups aim to defend and assert their communities and social spaces and to resist various forms of social and cultural oppression. Theyve challenged state policies that organise sexual policing and institutionalise heterosexuality as the norm. Finally, gay and lesbian groups aim to gain equal rights with heterosexuals, in such areas as the law, employment, custody and immigration.
Gay and lesbian movements are not homogenous. The aims listed above have received varying degrees of emphasis, and the Australian movements are typical in displaying both reformist and radical strands. The early emphasis on challenging the whole system of sexual categorisation into homosexual and heterosexual has been replaced by an emphasis on securing rights and legitimacy as a minority group.
Gay men in Australia have had a long history of resistance to conventional masculinity. In the early days of gay liberation, many gay men defiantly reversed the dominant idea of gender, embracing gender non-comformity and effeminacy. There were experiments in "radical drag" or "gender confusion", such as combining a dress with a beard. The gay movement spoke to far more than homosexual people only, for example in the slogan "Every straight man is a target for gay liberation."
But by the early 1980s, male homosexuality had been masculinised. Many gay men adopted the masculine styles of mainstream heterosexual culture. Gay politics shifted too, and there was less interest in challenging the gender ideology of the wider society.
Lesbian and gay politics is alive and well in the 1990s. Gays and lesbians are involved in a multitude of groups and organisationsimmigration and custody taskforces, Queer Nation, the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence, the AIDS Coalition To Unleash Power (ACTUP), Dykes on Bikes, AIDS Councils and bureaucracies, Mardi Gras and numerous others. There has been a degree of participation in electoral politics. It is now increasingly clear that there is no monolithic "gay culture" and no single shared identity. Whats more, in the wake of lesbian and gay movements a variety of other claims to valid sexual identity have been made. Sado-masochists, prostitutes, bisexuals, transsexuals, transvestites, leathermen/women and others have all acted to claim validity and rights.
The mens movement
WHAT about gay men and the mens movement? People frequently assume that men in mens groups or at mens festivals must be gay. This isnt surprising given the close link between gender definition and homophobia: step out of line and you must be a poofter.
The reality is that there are very few gay men in the mens movement. I believe that, at most, five per cent are gay, and I certainly know of many mens groups without a single gay (or bisexual) man. The typical mens group member is aged 3060, white and heterosexual. Nevertheless, gay men have been involved in the mens movement since its beginnings in the 1970s.
Gay men have found much support in the mens movement. They can participate in an environment that is far more accepting of male-male intimacy, touch and sensuality. Most participants show at least a tolerance, if not acceptance, of gay men. Through the simple fact of face-to-face contact with gay men, non-gay men feel more comfortable and their homophobia is undermined.
Men Against Sexual Assault groups included the phrase "gay-affirmative" in their statement of aims adopted at the 1992 national gathering. This statement also lists "hate crimes against gays, lesbians and bisexuals" as one of a variety of forms of violence opposed by MASA. However, not all of the six or so "MASA" groups have adopted these aims.
Homosexuality is an embarassment to many sections of the mens movement. To give an example, let me quote from a mens newsletter, in its outline of the decision to change its name from Alternative Male to Male (Winter 1989). "If we are trying to reach the "ordinary" man in the street, it is a fair bet that the word "Alternative" will conjure up visions of cosmic hippies, drop-out dole bludgers, free sex, pot smoking, and lots of other undesirable concepts; (even, perish the thought, homosexuality). Of course, this is not what the newsletter is about at allit is about ordinary guys telling other ordinary guys what it is like trying to change along with the world around them, and staying reasonably comfortable in the process."
The prevalence of these ideas is not surprising. Homophobic beliefs are deeply embedded in our society. Even the many books about men largely ignore the fact that mainstream masculinity is heterosexual. Mens movement literature offers an image of men that is largely white, middle-class and heterosexual.
We in the mens movement face the problem that we dont want to scare off potential participants, and any hint of gayness sends many men running. But the solution is not to perpetuate homophobia and silence gay men, by denying gay mens presence in the movement or staying clear of gay issues. Instead, we have to tackle the fear and ignorance that sends men running in the first place, and reject the idea that if you question masculinity you must be gay.
"Homophobia" is often understood in the mens movement as referring mainly to the fear of intimacy of men, and it is widely accepted that homophobia therefore blocks the development of a healthy masculinity. But less attention is given to other aspects of homophobiathe contempt and attacks directed specifically at gay men because of their sexuality, and the discriminations and injustices that gay men face. Gay politics involves a wider critique of the fact of "compulsory heterosexuality" and the heterosexist ideology that says being straight is "natural" or biologically determined.
STRAIGHT men can only benefit by becoming aware of homophobia. If we are less distanced from gay men and less bothered by the idea that others may see us as gay, then were far more able to step outside conventional masculinity. Were able to seek greater closeness and intimacy with other men and allow ourselves a more emotional and sensual personality. Like the banner I saw on television said, men can be "straight but not narrow".
Heterosexual men can act as allies to gay and bisexual men. We can acknowlege gay mens existence, affirm the validity of gay sexuality, defend gay men from attack and support gay struggles.
Men and masculinity will not change much until homophobia is radically undermined. The fear of being seen as a "poofter" prevents men and boys from questioning and ultimately abandoning traditional masculinity. Tackling homophobia is therefore a key task for all men.
Reprinted with permission from the magazine XY: men, sex, politics. PO Box 26, Ainslie ACT, 2602, AUSTRALIA.